Gone to heaven

Thursday 7.15pm
I was doing my coding, suddenly my hand phone rang. It was my mum hp number. I was wondering why my mum calling, because she usually calls me on the Friday asks me for dinner. I picked the called, and I heard my sister sobbing and telling me that my grandma (my mother’ side) has passed away. I was shocked but dint cry out. But my mind blanked.

I packed my stuff in fast action and drove back to my cousin’s house. It’s such a bad day! The entire Seremban Jaya was blacked out! I bathed, packing and even eat in the dark! I was so frustrated! Luckily, Chris was there, he comforted me.

He drove me to my grandma house. From far, I can see they use mahjong paper covered all the furniture and mirror…this made me fear…

We went into the house and I saw my grandma lying peacefully on the camp bed in the living room. She looked so thin with sunken cheeks and hollow eyes. At that moment, I was so sorry and guilty that I did not visit her frequently in the past. Now, she had left us.
I still can remember how good she treated us. She granted me rm1K for my successful in my studies in Form 5. She always reserved fruits to us as she knows my family like durian very much. She was so care of my family, whenever we need her, she was not hesitated to help. She was a very dedicated and yet strict grandma, but I know she loves us so much.

My mum stopped crying but her eyes were swollen, I knew she must be very sad. She told me that she see the last of my grandma.

My aunties and uncles were busy calling relatives, discussing on the “da zai” ceremony and some of them went to buy coffin…etc.

Nini and I dint stay over night there, we went back home with my dad while my mum was staying there to accompany my grandma.


Friday
I received a call from my mum, asking us go back to my grandma house before 6pm as the ceremony will be held at 6pm to 1.30am and pack each of us 1 red color shirt for after the funeral procession.

We reached my there at 4.45pm. The porch is set up; the coffin is on the main gate and saw all my aunties and uncles wearing white shirt and black trouser, all my cousins wearing blue shirt and trouser. Besides, there are lots of paper-made Bungalow, Mercedes, Money, TV- set…etc.

After taking our dinner there, we chit- chatting with relatives and long- lost cousins. Everybody seems good and not as bad as what I expected earlier.

The ceremony started sharp at 6pm with funereal music. All of us followed a man, which will lead the whole ceremony. We followed what he said, what he did. As the custom of this ceremony, all of my grandma’s children and grandchildren are not allowed to wear shoes; we had to be bare feet, no matter where you go till tomorrow’s funeral ends.

Furthermore, we also not allowed to sleep on the bed, all had to sleep on the floor. That night, I really couldn’t sleep well, was bitten by mosquitoes, insects, back pain due to sleep on the floor, and smoke made me hard to fall asleep. Anyway, I was slept around 3am with uncomfortable condition.

This ceremony was ended by burning all the paper- made stuffs at 2am. In Buddhist, Chinese believes that the dead person will be receiving all this assets and properties. All of us hope that my grandma will have prosperity and peaceful live in the heaven with her beloved husband which already there for the 20 years ago.



Saturday
Woke up at 8am and took my breakfast at 11am. The final ceremony was taking place at 12 noon before send my grandma to the funeral parlour. Again, we walked in bare feet during the funeral procession, where this time we walked on tar road for a quite long distance as a sign of sending my grandma to the heaven. All of our feet were burned under the hot sun.

We reached the Sendayan funeral parlour at 2pm. Before buried our beloved grandma, all of us had to bow and throw a grain of sand as a respect to her. Afterwards, we went back home with a heavy heart.

There was another ceremony which held after all of us reached home. Before we stepped into the house, we washed our faces and hands with flower water, as a sign of get rid of the bad luck (death).
After the ceremony, all of us wore red colour shirt.

We went home around 4.30pm

A sincere bless to my grandma. Hope she will be happy with my granddad and surrounded by angels in the heaven.